Kids are mirror images of their parents.

Whatever we do and however we do, our kids see, hear, digest and churn out exactly the same and often hits you in stark familiarity.

YH pushing the pram

YH pushing the pram

XX pushing the kiddie trolley

XX pushing the kiddie trolley

I am often not the best role model for them.

I snap whenever I am tired.
I lose my patience during piano practice.
I sleep late when I preach early bedtime and its benefits.
I do not eat finish my dinner if I have no appetite but insisted that my kids complete their meals no matter what their complaints are.
I yield out the cane when the house rules say no hitting each other.
I snack on the sofa when I always remind my kids not to eat elsewhere but at the table.
I check out my blog on computer and mobile when I limit the screen time for my kids.

I blurt out “sh@@” when I frown upon this mild profanity.
I pamper myself with $79 shoes but tell my kids that the $2 sticker is expensive and to put this on their Christmas wish list.

The above me is contradictory and hardly the best role model I want to be for the kids. I try to be conscious of my actions and do the right things in front of them. But some habits are hard to change. Sometimes circumstances need me to do otherwise. Seriously, it can be tiring to check on yourself frequently. I often lose my cool when I am feeling tired, which I am feeling almost everyday especially after a day’s work. It’s really tough to be a perfect role model for my kids!

I know I should not strive to be the perfect flawless person.  However, I need to check on myself more and be clear how I want my kids to grow up.

I want my kids to be vocal and speak out with confidence. 
I compliment sales staff when I love a service and speak out when I see something is wrong.

I want my kids to love their spouses.
I do not put down my partner. I display much love and affections to my hubby in front of them.

I want my kids to respect their spouses.
I delegate house chores to my hubby and let them know spouses help out each other. I do not talk bad things of their Papa. I want them to know I respect my spouse.

I do not want my kids to complain about life.
I keep negative comments to myself as much as is needed. I try to bring out the positive side to them and teach them to appreciate the simple things in life.

I want my kids to respect and love their parents and siblings.
I show much respect to my parents and my siblings too and bring the kids to visit their grandparents and cousins often as part of our family routines.

I want my kids to have a sense of social responsibility.
I demonstrate that by clearing the tray in Mac Donald’s and eateries. I do not litter, I save water and electricity through little ways. I encourage them to do the same.

Will my kids grow up to be what I want them to be? I don’t know. But I do know if I shower them with lots of love and warmth mixed with the right dose of discipline, they should steer towards being mature, respectable and responsible adults in the very near future. This tops my parenting wish list.

Do you find it tough to be constantly doing the right things in front of your kids? What tops your parenting wish list?