I have wanted to title this as “The Start of PSLE Preparations From The Laid-Back Mum”. But I am not exactly so laid-back anymore after my girl, Missy 12, failed her Math in P3. I cannot label myself as laid-back since I do teach and revise with my kids one month before examinations. In comparison with most parents, I have done very minimal for my kids’ academic. There is one thing I have stick to my guns and am crossing my fingers that I am doing a right thing, is to insist on not sending my kids to tuition.
This year, Missy 12 is taking PSLE (Primary School Leaving Examinations), her first National Examination at a tender age of 12. I am not going to lament why the need for PSLE and why can’t kids just move on to Secondary school without going through such major stress. This post is about how we are going to revise for PSLE on our own, free of external tuition.
If there are tuition centres for parents to teach techniques in answering English Comprehension Cloze, Comprehension, Science open-ended questions, Chinese Comprehension and Composition tips, you bet, I will sign up for it. I will gladly use my time to learn and go back to teach Missy 12, so as to save her time. Perhaps I am unaware of any. So please let me know if you know of one ok?
I must admit that tuition centres or private tuition teachers have bags of tricks and techniques to teach students on how to answer questions. That is the major advantage of going for tuition classes. So by denying my girl to go to such sure-win classes, many have question about my sanity and label me as a stubborn bull. To speak the truth, I am scared too.
Should I stop Missy 12’s new piano classes now (she has recently asked to resume her piano class after 1.5 years of break) when everyone is doing the opposite by taking a year break from any kind of enrichment classes? Should I invest $100+ per lesson to give her a booster in English? Should I ignore her tiredness from 3 times a week of intensive Volleyball training and insist she go to 1.5 hours of tuition multiply by 2 or 3 subjects every week plus 1 hour travelling time back and forth? Or perhaps others may ask why is she still playing sports and going for NAFA art classes during this crucial year?
There are various reasons why I do not send her to tuition classes and why she is still continuing enrichment classes.
FATIGUE PREVENTS OPTIMAL LEARNING
Firstly, she has never attended a single tuition class and forcing her to do it now may backfire her learning interest. If she cannot catch what is taught in class, she may not catch it in another tuition class. Switching off when one has lost interest and simply too tired could happen to anyone. Besides travelling on the road to and fro tuition will deplete all her energy and attention needed in the class.
TRUST IN SCHOOL TEACHERS
Secondly, I believe our MOE-trained school teachers are very qualified to teach the students good enough to do well in PSLE. If not, shouldn’t we send our kids to tuition classes instead and skip school entirely?
STRIKING A BALANCE
Thirdly, I believe in BALANCE. I want my girl to be happy and learn holistically. I worry about her stress levels this year.
On the first day of school, her form teacher wrote down the test and exam schedule from Jan to Sep. I can feel that the teachers have started to emphasize to the students on how critical this year is, and have no reservations in instilling the awareness and stress in them. I am not so sure if Missy 12 feels the stress, but I took a picture of what she jotted down on this schedule and I couldn’t take my eyes off the snapshot of the schedule the next day. I am determined to “wake up” from my laid-back self and do my best to ensure she does reasonably well. It will still be only Mom Tuition and no external tuition. At the same time, I am also determined to balance her stress and ensure she still has a life. So, her piano and art classes and volleyball practices are forms of de-stress in my opinion and should not stop. I will respect her if, at any point of time, she thinks she wants to stop any of them. So far, she has not raised a flag.
REVISION PLANS
Ever since I saw the Jan to Sep exam schedule, I have gone to the Popular bookstore to buy more assessment books. I had chanced upon a parent who taught an unorthodox method to improve English in a short time. I had talked to several mums whose kids have been through PSLE. I have talked to teacher friends. Finally I discussed all my findings and thoughts with Kel.
We came out with a timetable for revision. We worked out how to settle the other 2 kids when I am teaching my girl. We put up a revision plan and teaching method for English, the weakest subject. I shall share details on how we go about revising in another post.
Each weeknight, we will have 30 minutes revision time for English. You may think it is very short. However, I am a working mum. Night time is short and precious. Energy is low, attention span is short. My girl returns late on 4 weekdays in a week from school’s commitment. She will need time to rest and do her homework. She may have questions that need my help to teach her too. Some time has to be catered to that.
Every weekend, we will have 2 parts of revision according to our weekend schedule. First part will be an hour’s revision and second part will be an hour and a half. Saturday will be focusing on Math and Sunday will be on Science.
That leaves Chinese out of the whole revision plan. Chinese is our kids’ strongest subject and it really helps to free up time for the rest of the subjects. It is hard to achieve bilingual excellence. While Chinese is their strongest subject, naturally, English becomes the weaker one. The reason why Chinese is a stronger subject is because we are a Chinese speaking family and my kids watch Channel 8 drama serials, listen to Chinese radio station and Chinese songs. Even though they do not have too much problem with Chinese, they still need to brush up compositions and get the right technique to answering Chinese Comprehension questions.
CHANGE OF ROUTINES TO PREP PSLE
Some routines will have to change a bit.
Sleeping early
This is a really difficult routine to change. Perhaps with one child, I may be able to enforce this with breeze since there are no toddler who runs in and out of the room before bed and no sibling to chat and giggle with long after lights out. I told Missy 12 that a simple way to help her do well in academic is to sleep early, as simple as that. A clear mind is like an empty sponge. It absorbs knowledge faster and allows one to think better. We are trying to have a lights out by 930pm.
No night TV
The kids love to watch the Chinese Drama serial at 9pm to 10pm. This will have to stop. I do allow them to have an hour of TV time in the day time once they have finished their homework.
Less weekend activities
This year, we may have to cut down on our weekend activities for the sake of Missy 12’s critical year. She has lots of homework from Friday school and has started to ask for more time to do homework. The first time she asked for homework time, I was slightly taken aback. The kids are growing up and school work is mounting. I have since cut down on blog events and ensure homework is done before we bring them out. Nevertheless, I will balance revision time with play. Moderating stress is my priority too.
Other siblings
So what do the other 2 kids do when I am revising with my Missy 12? I have decided to task Master 10 to play with Master 5. It works sometimes and it poses great challenges on other times. Master 5 yearns for attention after not seeing me for the whole day. I have even thought of the convenient way of giving the ipad so that he can quietly watch some YouTube videos and I can have some peaceful serious revision time. If you have good ideas on how to handle the other kids, do help me on this too!
To prepare for PSLE which is taking place in September, I will most likely take up lesser blog commitment and cut down on my girl night dates. It is indeed a family examination since everyone in the house has to change routine and adjust in one way or another to give moral support. I will be blogging more on PSLE preparation and my experience on it as we go along. I hope our revision plan works and who knows, I may really send my girl to intensive tuition if nothing works out!
I welcome PSLE mums to drop a comment below or on facebook page to exchange ideas and advice. Thank you in advance!
Till the next PSLE post!
Waiting to learn how you intend to “tutor” your girl, cause I want to apply to my kids too. I’m hoping no tuition for them. I agree with you that tuition may kill their interest in learning. I’m happy that my boy’s school also agree with us in no tuition (at least for his p1 teachers, LOL). So I hope I can keep it that way. And yes, they definitely have to do something out of their school work to destress.
Currently, I coach the elder two at the same time. When GorGor does his writing, MeiMei will read to me. When MeiMei writes, GorGor will read. Though most time they will fight for my attention at the same time. The poor youngest is often left with my MIL or helper. My MIL often resort to letting my youngest watch videos during this period *sigh*. I also need to find a way to effectively engage all three together when they do revisions.
I totally know what you mean. Luckily my youngest is a girl and she is the one who is the most interested in doing any homework!! haha! Anyway, it’s hard not for them to be distracted by younger siblings. Have you thought of bringing out some activity or tray or invitation to play?
Lucky you! My youngest is a boy, hmm.. although he likes writing, he needs me by his side too!
Thanks for sharing Jac! Your son’s school is good to promote it this way, I feel if less parents sign up for tuition for the children, school teachers will also feel more responsible to ensure their sole teaching in school is important for the children.
You have a good arrangement with the elder 2. And my situation is the same as you for no. 3. I have to lock the door to prevent him for coming into the room to disturb. It is hard to include him as he will not be quiet and wants me to play with him. I wonder how those without helper handle kids during revision. It seems that their kids are much more obedient and well-behaved.
Perhaps I should assign some quiet work for no. 3 too but that means I have to entertain his questions or help halfway through my revision with Missy 12 which will be very disruptive. Maybe the youtube videos have to do the job for these 9 months 🙁 I MUST think of a way to engage him apart from technology! Let’s JIAYOU together!
Hi, my boy is taking PSLE this year. I’m a working mother. able to share ur revision timetable so that I can use it on my boy?
Hi Lim, our timetable for revision is written in the post.
As my kids return late from school daily and at different times, it is hard to craft a timetable for them.
Hence, we have 30 min revision on EL every night from Mon to Fri. And 2.5 hrs of revision in 2 parts on both Sat and Sun, one day for Science and one day for Math. So far, this is our revision hours.
I have tried doing it this week, and it seems that the bite-size 30 min revision blocks work very well. Not too long such that my girl will switch off, and since she expects only 30 min revision, she will put in full concentration too.
I will share more on how we study EL on my next PSLE post 🙂 If you have good ideas, I welcome you to share with me too!
Have not visited for a while. Saw this post on my Facebook feed and the title caught my attention. 🙂
My boy is taking PSLE this year and I am sticking to no tuition for him too! Sometimes I do wonder if we’re doing the right thing…. seeing that almost every child I know goes for tuition. No tuition during PSLE year is almost unheard of. So I’m glad to read this post!
I have not heard from you for some time, and happy to see you leave a comment here!! 🙂
I am very sure you are doing the right thing especially when you are a teacher and very up-to-date with school syllabus. With a teacher mum, I seriously do not think your child need tuition at all. Everyone is taking tuition around me. When my girl’s form teacher heard that she does not have tuition, he was impressed even though her marks are not fantastic, but it shows that she does it by herself.
As long as we are still able to help our children in their academics, I think tuition-less route will be beneficial. Just like what a good friend of mine says: I know my child best and know her weak points, so with target practices, it should be better than external tuition.
It is encouraging to know a few more like-minded mums whose kids have no tuition as well. All the best to our kids!
Haha! Yes, I’m a former teacher but I can only teach English. The other subjects are beyond me, especially P6 Math. Horrors! I can’t even solve most of the questions. My boy didn’t do well for his Math last year… so we were thinking if we should start him on tuition but decided not to. We’ve told him that for his PSLE, we want to see his effort, regardless of results. So, he is working hard and that is good enough for us. 🙂
Jia you!!!! All the best to Missy 12 🙂 Recently my kids have been taking to saying “i’m bored” when actually they are trying to ask for tv, so I decided to take out some toys for them to play, and so far it works! Because they have not seen those toys for a while…. Oh and if Mister 5 needs some new toys, I have some I would gladly pass to you to keep him busy for some time!!
Thank you Mummy Ed! I am trying to declutter my house LOL! Will PM you to check what toys you have that Master 5 may like, TIA!
I am trying to hide some toys recently so that when I bring them out a few months later, they are like “new toys”! What kind of toys do you let the kids play? I am secretly hoping they take some books to read instead of screen time. I need ideas for entertainment, especially on independent play and engagement 🙂
I’m sure it’s not easy going against the flow and not sending your little missy for tuition especially when you have limited time after work to revise with her. My girl is only in P2 and already I find myself so time strapped trying to squeeze in time to revise her work and catch up on her day before the day ends. But I’m very glad to hear that it can be done 🙂 All the best to your girl too and jia you mummy!
hi can u also share how you revise the maths and science ? thanks alot.
Hi Karen, I will be sharing soon! Thanks for reading! Stay tune!
Hi,
My gal is also taking her psle this year and I am feeling terribly stressful. It doesn’t help much when my son is taking his O levels exams this year too.
I am pretty amaze by your idea of no tuition class for your missy 12. I wish I could do the same for my gal.
I was wondering how do you coach your missy for English? How do you revise English with her? Can share your tips?
Thank you…
Hi Sherlyn, I have actually shared on the way we learn English, comprehension tips, composition tips, how we learn Math recently. Look for these posts in my home page at kidsrsimple.com.
I hope these posts help! I am going to share more as we revise along. While not all my methods can apply to all readers, I hope they are good inspiration to all out there!
Having 2 kids on major exams together can be overwhelming! But I think O level child should be more independent compared to PSLE child who need more guidance at this age.
I believe it is about whether you have a high expectations or not which can influence the stress level and revision attitude too.
For me, I do not have expectations on marks and grades, believe it or not. I let my child set her own target grades and marks and my role is to help her achieve her target.
Good luck to your kids! I hope you will find a revision schedule and way that work for you 🙂
Thank you for your wonderful advice. Good luck to your child too 🙂
Hi, My child will start psle next year. I am a believer of no tuition. However seeing the frenzy around me , I had planned to start him on tuition. However I came across this thread while googling how to prepare for psle. Its heartening to know so many parents share my feelings….I would like to know now that your children have been through it, was it the right decision for you to teach them? or you think they would be better off with tuition?
Hi Pooja,
My answer will be if I have to do it again I will still insist on no tuition 🙂
Not sure if you have read my recent post on us surviving to tell the story of our no tuition route, the path less traveled. It is really about believing in our child’s capability to do it on their own without external help and managing we, parents’ expectations.
I hope you will make a right decision, one that suits your child best.
There is no right or wrong in getting tuition. It is more of whether it suits your child’s needs 🙂