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2015 reflections and thoughts

2015 is coming to an end and each year end, I view it as an important time to reflect on what I had done right and what I had done wrong in the past one year. I like it to be a recap of the happy times we had in the one whole year too. Unhappy times are history. We want to welcome the brand new year with a brand new start.

Work and Blogging

I had a busy year juggling work and family as well as blogging.

Work was super busy and it got busier towards the second part of the year. It took up lots of my family time which I hated but not able to do much about it. I even contemplated quitting without the readiness of being a SAHM. Of course, the SAHM thought will always be on my mind till the day I fulfil this long awaited wish. Hopefully come 2016, this wish will not be too far away.

Blogging has been a good hobby for me as it is therapeutic and a good avenue to sort out my thoughts and plans. However, with the kids growing up so fast, I need to take care of their feelings when I post pictures and their nit bits of life with permission. Many times, I find myself in a dilemma of whether to continue blogging or not and also now and then hit by blog envy. But blogging is really giving me and my family Continue reading “2015 reflections and thoughts”

No Longer A Laidback Mum in Academics

Being a mum is a constant learning journey.

Each child is different and I have to craft my mothering skills differently on each child, be it nurturing his/her character or be involved in his/her academics.

I used to think that I will be a Laid Back Mum in Academics for as long as I like and my children will turn out fine studying by themselves, just like how I did it myself. How wrong I was.

After my girl failed her P3 Math exam last year, it was a kind of wake up call that my child may need me to be involved in her studies to some extent. I will not hold her hand forever and still will not load her with tuition and endless helicoptering over her studies such that she will be turned off by me. But I will guide her along when she needs my help or if I see that she NEEDS my help. Children may not know and may not always be so initiative when it comes to academics. I need to be more aware of their signals for help.

Imagine my elation when she came back to tell me she had scored 84/100 for her P4 SA2 Math exam!

This was from a “F” in P3 SA2 Math to a pass of 54 marks in P4 SA1 Math exam to an Ace (in my own mummy ranking) in P4 SA2 Math exam!

Not only that, she scored well across all subjects this time round and her friend actually told her that she should get the BEST IMPROVEMENT award 🙂

Best part is Missy 10 said this one evening when I was at the dining table: Continue reading “No Longer A Laidback Mum in Academics”

Getting prepared to be a SAHM

In recent weeks, I have been feeling extremely demoralized at work. I told Kel about calling it quits and taking a break from work.

It didn’t exactly come out as a “break from work”, but it came out much harsher. I told him that I ever gave him a chance to fulfill his dreams and I hope he is able to give me my chance too. I really want to fulfill my dreams once in my lifetime. Or it shall be a lifelong regret for me.

What dream is that? You guess it right: to be a SAHM

After a long, long pause, Kel finally said,”OK, you can quit your job come end of this year and go and fulfill your dreams.”

And I never expected that answer.

I mean, I have lamented, complained, hinted, blatantly spelt, and we have talked about this topic for the longest time. Each time, we both knew it is quite impossible because living in Singapore with single income is too much stress for the bread winner. However, it feels a little different this time. Perhaps my dreams will really come true.

The next day, we brought the kids out and Missy 10 asked to buy some beads from Spotlight to make some crafts. The beads cost $6.99. I thought to myself: If I were no longer working, will I even buy those beads? I had Continue reading “Getting prepared to be a SAHM”

When blogging becomes a jealousy affair

Tonight, our bedtime topic with the kids revolves around blogging.

Me: Maybe I should stop blogging…
Children: Why Mummy?
Me: Because Mummy feels that my original blogging purpose is being overtaken by other factors… like… (hard to admit, but I did) jealousy and competition and overexposure of our personal life.
Children: Why don’t you just write in our book diaries…?

I love conversation with the kids. They are so simple.

I don’t know about other parenting bloggers, but from time to time, I am affected by other bloggers getting THAT invite, THAT sponsor, THAT chance on media.

Why did I even expect fame? Continue reading “When blogging becomes a jealousy affair”

Work and family – are we placing the right priorities?

A few mornings ago, my toddler hugged my leg tightly when I was leaving for work. We were looking at 2 beautiful yellow birds chirping on the neighbour’s flowers. The birds flew away and came back a few times. We watched happily and the toddler could speak in clear sentences to me about the birds were chirping away. I put him down so that he could wear his little slippers to walk about. While he was wearing his slippers, I told him I had to leave for work. So, I began to walk away. He took some time to put on his slippers and with the half dragging of the slippers and half hopping over, he caught up with me who had deliberately walked slowly for him to catch up. He hugged on tightly and chanted “Mama.. Mama..” Argh…. to hell with work. I can’t be bothered if I was late anymore. But I knew I had to leave and briefly stopped and kissed him again. The helper took him away to watch the birds once more. At this moment, I envied the helper. Continue reading “Work and family – are we placing the right priorities?”